The Joy of Rebounding from Failure

What are you afraid of? An airplane crashing into your house? The boogeyman? Walking under a ladder?

 

An online search reveals there are hundreds, many even thousands of fears. The technical term for them is ‘phobias.’ There are common ones like fear of spiders (arachnophobia); fear of closed spaces (claustrophobia); fear of heights (acrophobia); fear of flying (aerophobia); and fear of crowds (agoraphobia).

 

There also are some less common ones, such as fear of needles (trypanophobia); fear of men (androphobia); fear of computers (cyberphobia); fear of beautiful women (venustraphobia); fear of small things (microphobia); and fear of hospitals (nosocomephobia). There’s even fear of vacuum cleaners (zuigerphobia). Do people with that phobia avoid making sweeping generalizations?

 

One fear most of us experience at one time or another is atychiphobia. What’s that? It’s a fancy name for the fear of failure. In its most extreme form, an atychiphobic person might find daily life difficult – avoiding or postponing tasks, suffering from panic or anxiety, or feeling scared about taking risks or embracing growth opportunities.

 

I’ve been atychiphobic at times, resisting the desire to try or learn new or unfamiliar things, thinking, ‘What if I try and fail?’ I remember years ago when I accepted a job to work with CBMC (Christian Business Men’s Connection). We lived in Houston at the time and were moving to Chattanooga, so I told my pastor about our relocation and my transition to the new position.

 

He caught me off guard by suggesting, “I think you should get up during the service and tell everyone what you’ll be doing.” What?! (Years before I had been asked to speak at another church but became so nervous I barely got through what I had to say.) I’d be staring at hundreds of faces, even though I knew many of them. What if I got up there and started stammering, or forgot what I wanted to say?

 

So, I responded, “No, I couldn’t do that.” However, my pastor persisted, asking me to pray about it. I did and eventually felt God wanted me to step out of my comfort zone and trust Him. I felt anxious that Sunday morning, but prayed, “Lord, enable me to tell everyone about this new door You’ve given me.” 

 

When the moment came, I stepped to the pulpit and suddenly felt a sense of calm. God got me through the brief talk without making a fool of myself. Rebounding from my past failure was an important step of obedience. In the years since, the Lord has given me opportunities to speak in a variety of places.

 

In the Bible we encounter many individuals who suffered great failures but managed to rebound from them to experience victory in their walk with the Lord. One of my favorites is John Mark, a cousin of Barnabas, a leader in the early Church and mentor for the apostle Paul.

 

We first meet John Mark, also known as Mark, in Acts 12:12. He accompanied Barnabas and Paul on a missionary journey to Antioch and Cyprus, but for some unspecified reason abandoned the group at a later stop. Perhaps he’d grown homesick or found traveling too arduous. In any event, at that point Mark parted ways with Barnabas and Paul. 

 

Then he apparently reconsidered what might have been a rash decision. Barnabas and Paul were planning to revisit the cities on their first mission trip, and “Barnabas wanted to take John, called Mark, with them, but Paul did not think it wise to take him, because he had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not continued with them in their work" (Acts 15:37-39).

 

Can you blame Paul? The mission trips they were undertaking were demanding, even dangerous. As someone who placed great value on “faithful men” (2 Timothy 2:2), he didn’t want to be held back by someone who seemed unreliable.

 

Barnabas, however, disagreed. It might have been the family relationship or that, as with Paul, he saw promise in John Mark that others didn’t. In any event, we’re told, “[Paul and Barnabas] had such a sharp disagreement that they parted company. Barnabas took Mark and sailed for Cyprus” (Acts 15:39).

 

Happily, that’s not the last we hear of John Mark. Barnabas must have done well in taking his cousin under his wing, because twice Paul mentions the young man in his epistles. To believers in the city of Colossae, he writes, “My fellow prisoner Aristarchus sends you greetings, as does Mark the cousin of Barnabas. You have already received instructions about him: If he comes to you, welcome him” (Colossians 4:10).

 

And in a letter to his protégé Timothy, Paul states, “Only Luke is with me. Get Mark and bring him with you, because he is helpful to me in my ministry” (2 Timothy 4:11). How’s that for a resounding word of confidence?

 

Even at that, the greatest testimony to John Mark’s rebound from failure is the fact that he is credited as the author of the gospel of Mark. Not bad for a young guy who at one point bailed during an important missionary journey.

 

There’s a lesson here for us all. If atychiphobia is holding us back, fear of failing because of past failures, or hesitation about trying something new or different, remember John Mark. If he can do it, so can we.