Celebrating the Steps, Not Sweating the Falls

One of the joys and benefits of grandparenting is experiencing again what it’s like to raise little children. Without the time commitment, loss of sleep, or ever-increasing expenses. As many a grandpa or grandma has said, “We spoil ‘em, then we send ‘em home.”

 

Grandparenting also provides the opportunity to again witness major milestones – such as a little one learning to eat actual food (and tossing it on the floor), discovering babytalk, and taking the first steps of a lifetime of walking and running. 

 

After discovering that crawling isn’t meant for distances, the little one learns to pull up on a chair or momma’s knee. Then comes the magic moment: the first step. After a tentative, tiny stride, the first-time stroll comes to a sudden end when young Jimmy or Ginny falls back onto his or her bottom. One small step for toddler, one giant step toward the future.

 

How do the parents – and grandparents – react? With glee. Sure, the child didn’t walk across the living room or den, but it was a promising start. Everyone applauds. “Good job!” No one says, or even thinks, ‘What’s the matter with you? People aren’t going to carry you around forever, you know.’ We celebrate this little victory, those first steps, knowing many more will follow. 

 

Too soon this youngster will grow, walk out the door, step into the car, and eventually embark on a new life of his or her own. Time passes so quickly. So, we revel in the initial tiny steps and don’t worry about the inevitable falls that must follow. It’s all part of the process, the plan. Enjoy them while we can.

 

We find a similar scenario when participating in someone’s spiritual journey. Making a profession of faith in Jesus Christ and even getting baptized aren’t the destination. They’re just the first step, one of many in a lifelong walk with the Lord. In terms of spiritual maturity, there’s no shortcut, no accelerated growth plan.

 

There’s a temptation to put new believers on a pedestal – especially entertainers, well-known athletes, prominent business and professional people. But success in some vocation doesn’t make a person a seasoned theologian or expert on the Bible. Regardless of status, we all must go through an arduous adventure of growing, stumbling and maturing in our faith. 

 

I recall a well-known professional athlete who made a bold statement of faith years ago, declaring he had been “born again.” Less than a year later, however, news accounts said he was struggling with substance abuse. It wasn’t until years afterward that the athlete reaffirmed his commitment to Christ, engaged in spiritual growth programs, and later became leader of a fruitful ministry. His story isn’t uncommon.

 

When Jesus gave His followers their final instructions prior to His ascension to heaven, He said we’re to “make disciples of all nations…teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you…” (Matthew 28:19-20). He didn’t command them – or us – to focus on making converts. One must be a convert before becoming a true disciple, but Jesus’ clear and specific commission was to develop followers, learners, people who become spiritual reproducers.

 

Similar to the initial stages of a toddler’s walk, one’s walk with Christ is unsteady at best. Many of us know this from experience. Falls are inevitable, along with bumps and bruises. This is why parenting is important, both in physical and spiritual terms. Writing to believers in ancient Thessalonica, the apostle Paul declared: 

“…we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children. We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us…. For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into His kingdom and glory” (2 Thessalonians 2:7-8,11-12).

 

The apostle Peter, again from experience, understood about what it was like to be a spiritual babe. In one of his letters he wrote, “Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good” (1 Peter 2:2-3).

 

Like human infants, spiritual babies need to grow up. Sometimes it requires parental discipline to move the process along. For instance, Paul chided believers in Corinth, “I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready” (1 Corinthians 3:2).     

 

The writer of the book of Hebrews also recognized the periodic need for a swift kick of correction to the readers’ spiritual pants: “…though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil” (Hebrews 5:12-14).   

 

Walking with Christ can be like taking one step forward and two steps back at times, but the Lord is abundantly patient. He’s always been that way, as we discover many times in reading the Old Testament. We find an excellent reminder in the book of Nehemiah, concerning the headstrong Israelites:

“For many years You were patient with them. By Your Spirit You admonished them through Your prophets. Yet they paid no attention, so You handed them over to the neighboring peoples. But in Your great mercy You did not put an end to them or abandon them, for You are a gracious and merciful God” (Nehemiah 9:30-31).

So, if you’re going through a rough patch spiritually right now, or someone you’re discipling is, take heart: “…for the Lord your God goes before you; He will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:8, Hebrews 13:5). 

Labels: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

What would we do without labels? On clothes they tell us the size of the shirt, blouse, pants, dress or coat. They also tell us what material the clothing is made of, and whether to wash or dry clean it.

 

Labels on food products can tell us what each item is, what its ingredients are, how to prepare it for meals, its nutritional value and how many calories it contains. We have labels for many other things as well, ranging from cars and electronics to mattresses and bathmats. 

 

But we don’t stop there with labeling. We find labels for people equally useful. We label by vocation – doctor, lawyer, CPA, architect. They must be smart, and wealthy, right? There are tradespeople too, folks like carpenters, electricians, plumbers, roofers. Society doesn’t label them with as high esteem, but if you have a leaky roof, who’d you rather come right away – a lawyer or a roofer?

 

The thing about labels, we find them handy for evaluating and judging people. We label by gender, race, ethnicity, religious beliefs (or none), education, political preference, sports team allegiance, even the places where they shop and organizations they belong to. You see someone with tattoos or piercings? Why take the time and effort to get to know someone when you can label them?

 

Hey, if I’m pointing a finger that means three others are pointing back at me. I’ve been guilty of people-labeling more times than I’d like to admit. The problem is, if we do go to the bother of really getting to know someone, often we discover our labels are entirely wrong.

 

Imagine a can of food in your pantry that’s somehow lost its label. How can you know what’s in it? Most of the time the only way is to open it up and find out whether it’s a can of corn, green beans, or pie filling. 

 

Apply that principle to our often-faulty habit of labeling people we’re not acquainted with or barely know. We can judge solely by what we see on the outside – or we can try to engage with them so we can truly determine who they are and what they’re like.

 

We find an excellent example in the Bible’s Old Testament. King Saul of Israel had proved himself unworthy of leading God’s chosen people, so the Lord instructed the prophet Samuel to locate Saul’s successor. The Lord’s choice was one of the sons of a man named Jesse, so the prophet went to his home to give the sons a once-over.

 

We’re told in 1 Samuel 16 that Samuel started with the oldest, Eliab, and thought, “Surely the Lord’s exalted stands here before the Lord” (1 Samuel 16:6). But God told him, “Nope, not him.” The prophet checked out each of the seven sons Jesse had brought to him, but not one of them was God’s choice despite their passing the eye test. 

 

The reason was simple: “The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). Kind of like having to open an unlabeled can to find out what kind of food is inside, God was saying He doesn’t choose His servants based on how they look outwardly.

 

Finally, Jesse’s youngest son, David, a lowly shepherd boy – not a highly esteemed vocation back then – was brought to Samuel. Speaking through the prophet, God’s choice was clear: “Rise and anoint him; he is the one” (1 Samuel 16:12). David went on to have an oft-tumultuous 40-year reign over Israel, even writing many of the beloved Psalms in his spare time.

 

We find many other examples in the Scriptures that warn us against labeling – judging people based on their outward appearances. People who were lame, blind, mute, deaf, suffering from various diseases, despised Samaritans, women of ill repute, and many others. Foremost was Jesus Christ, whom the Jewish rulers and religious leaders dismissed as a troublemaker and deceiver. We know He was anything but that.

 

One time Jesus had been teaching in the temple. The leaders stirred up the crowd, getting many to shout in opposition. Undeterred, He responded, “Stop judging by mere appearances, and make a right judgment” (John 7:24).

 

We’d be wise to take this to heart. We live in a time of labeling gone amok. Liberals shouting at conservatives, conservatives arguing with liberals, none of them making an effort to engage in calm, reasonable discourse. People from different generations speaking in derogatory terms toward each other. Even within the Church, members of different congregations and different denominations exchanging accusations. Most of the time, based on the labels assigned to them.

 

Just as we can’t look at a building and know what’s inside without actually going into it, the Scriptures warn we’re in danger of serious error by relying on labels to assess who people really are. Society tells us to save time by giving folks labels and then judging based on stereotypes. However, especially for those of us who claim to follow Christ, we don’t have that option.

 

As the apostle Paul asserts in 2 Corinthians 5:16, “So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer.” Through the power of Christ, we can avoid the trap of labeling and judging people solely on how they seem on the outside. Instead, we can choose to withhold judgment until we’ve made the effort to get to know them for who they truly are.

Seeing, Understanding the Truth Through the Right ‘Lenses’

Have you ever tried to explain something to another person, something that seemed so obvious to you but the only response you received was, “I don’t get it”? 

Maybe it’s a genre of music you’re fond of and can’t understand why other people don’t love it as you do. Or some exotic type of food that makes you salivate every time you think of it, while other people tell you, “No way I’m going to try eating that!” Or your political persuasion – you try to explain your point of view to someone on the opposite side of the spectrum and the best you get is a glazed look.

 

It can be hard to comprehend why folks don’t share our enthusiasm, but it shouldn’t be surprising. Imagine you receive a book as a gift. But it’s written in a foreign language, and you can’t read a word of it. The person who gave you the book thinks it’s a treasure, but for you it makes no sense at all. Unless you take the time to learn the language. Then one day it’s like your eyes are opened for the first time; you understand why the friend thought it was so special.

 

There’s a parallel to this in the realm of faith. Over the years I’ve gone through several evangelism training programs. Perhaps you have, too. During the sessions, the approaches and explanations presented make perfect sense. But when trying to use them in a spiritual discussion with a nonbeliever, they don’t always work as well. The biblical truths we’re so eager to share seem like jibberish to the other person. Why? 

 

We could suggest a variety of explanations, but one primary reason is that apart from the work of the Holy Spirit in them, it’s like trying to describe the color purple to someone who’s been blind since birth. The Bible says as much: “The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned” (1 Corinthians 2:14).

One-time atheist turned defender of the faith, C.S. Lewis, affirmed this in one of his best-known quotes: "I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else." Coming to faith in Christ truly is eye-opening.

Depending on what “expert” is talking, we’re told the United States is in a post-Christian or post-modern era. These have similar meanings – the Judeo-Christian foundation our society once had has eroded, and there’s considerable doubt it can be restored. But that doesn’t mean we should shy away from telling others about Jesus Christ, what He has done, and what He’s doing in our lives. 

 

Members of the non-believing world around us are more than eager to speak about their skepticism. Why should we be prohibited from expressing what we believe? An adage warns us never to argue about politics and religion, and often that’s good advice. We’re not going to win people to Christ through a heated argument. But as a wise preacher has observed, “Once you have seen the truth, you can’t unsee the truth.”

 

Last year I had cataract surgery. However, unlike most patients – including my wife – who have the procedure and no longer need eyeglasses for distance purposes, my procedure left me near-sighted. I still require eyeglasses for driving, watching a movie or attending a sporting event. 

 

People who are far-sighted have no problem seeing things at a distance clearly, but to read things up close they need corrective lenses or “readers.” Even though something is right in front of them, like a book or a food label. Far-sighted or near, being able to see properly is a matter of having the right lenses.

 

When God brings someone into our lives who doesn’t know Him and seems resistant to even a casual discussion about Him, our recourse isn’t to persuade harder or argue louder. The apostle Paul wrote about this in his second letter to the church in ancient Corinth:

“…by setting forth the truth plainly we commend ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God. And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing. The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God…. For God, who said, ‘Let light shine out of the darkness,’ made His light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ” (2 Corinthians 4:2-6).

 

Whenever anyone comes to know Christ as Savior and Lord, it’s a miraculous work of God. Including ourselves. Because as the passage says, the “god of this age” (Satan) had blinded our minds so we couldn’t see the truth. As was the case for zealous, Christian-persecuting Saul before he encountered Jesus on the road to Damascus and became Paul, a key leader of the early Church.

 

Think of it this way: Someone who is blind physically can’t start seeing simply by deciding, ‘I’m tired of being blind.’ In some way the blindness must be removed. Sadly, there are many who don’t even realize how desperately they need Christ. Only by God’s grace and mercy can they receive new spiritual “lenses” to see and receive the truth that seems so clear for those of us who believe.

 

May we pray diligently for the Lord to open their hearts, eyes and minds. And also pray along with Paul, “…that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make know the mystery of the gospel…. Pray that I may declare it fearlessly, as I should” (Ephesians 6:19-20).

Trying Desperately to Fix the Unfixable

Have you ever dropped a glass, a vase, or even your cellphone, and immediately realized it’s beyond repair? Or someone runs a stop sign and rams into your car. Some things, once broken, aren’t fixable. When things are beyond repair, the best we can do is buy a replacement. If it’s a priceless antique, we might utter a few chosen words, shed some tears, and then accept the fact that nothing can be done.

 

We can usually get over the loss of material things. But other things – like broken homes, broken hearts, broken relationships and broken dreams – are far more devastating and harder to recover from, if ever. Years ago, a popular song by the Bee Gees asked, 

“How can you mend a broken heart? 

How can you stop the rain from falling down? 

How can you stop the sun from shining?... 

Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.”

 

We’ve all been there in one way or another. Even if it’s not the end of the world, at the time it seems that way. We live in a broken world, filled with imperfect, sinful people whose brokenness inevitably rubs off on folks around them.

 

God had created a perfect world, including the first humans – Adam and Eve – and entrusted the glorious garden of Eden to their care. But the idyllic world ended when the first couple fell for the persuasions of Satan and did the one thing God had told them not to do: eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Perfection was shattered. Sin invaded the world. We’ve been beset by brokenness ever since.

 

Which leads us to perhaps the biggest question facing humankind: With all our brokenness, how can we fix the unfixable? We’ve certainly tried in many ways: Psychology, counseling, philosophy, social and government programs. Bookstores filled with self-help books claiming to have the answers. Motivational speakers with catchy sayings and ‘secrets for success.’ Politicians passing laws upon laws.

 

Despite all this, even a casual glance around our world reveals the brokenness afflicting humanity, perhaps more prevalent than ever.

 

So, what’s the answer? There are some who favor, “I was born that way,” as a suitable explanation. But should this be realistic justification for wrongful actions ranging from marital infidelity to addictions to shoplifting to domestic abuse? We’re all broken people in unique ways, but consequences of our brokenness can’t be ignored or swept out of sight.

 

Even in the realm of religion, too often we’ve seen evidence of brokenness. Humanly speaking, there’s no solution. “Follow this rule.” “Adhere to that regulation.” “Just try harder.” We’ve all heard these and other admonitions, attempting to put them into practice, but without lasting success.

 

Is it hopeless? Experience has taught me there is one answer: the merciful, transforming power of Jesus Christ. In the gospels we find He’s the expert on dealing with brokenness, fixing the seeming unfixable. He gave sight to the blind, enabled the mute to speak, empowered the crippled to walk, healed the sick, even raised some from the dead.

 

Brokenness was involved in His greatest miracles. On at least two occasions Jesus fed thousands by breaking loaves of bread and fish that were available:

“…Taking the five loaves and the two fish and looking up to heaven, He gave thanks and broke the loaves. Then He gave them to the disciples to set before the people. He divided the two fish among them all. They all ate and were satisfied… The number of men who had eaten was five thousand” (Mark 6:35-44).

“‘How many loaves do you have?’ Jesus asked [His disciples]. ‘Seven,’ they replied…. When He had taken the seven loaves and given thanks, He broke them and gave them to His disciples to set before the people…. They had a few fish as well…. The people ate and were satisfied. Afterward the disciples picked up seven basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over. About four thousand men were present…" (Mark 8:1-9).

 

Christ’s greatest act involving brokenness was becoming the atoning sacrifice for our sins of the cross. While observing the Passover meal the evening before His crucifixion, “…Jesus took the bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to His disciples, saying, ‘Take and eat; this is My body.’ Then He took the cup, gave thanks and offered it to them, saying, ‘Drink from it, all of you. This is My blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins’” (Matthew 26:26-28).

 

Through His death and resurrection, Jesus provided our only hope for the healing of our brokenness, as two of my favorite Bible verses explain. Galatians 2:20 declares, “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.” And 2 Corinthians 5:17 states, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!”

 

Through Him we can receive new life spiritually, no longer enslaved by the brokenness of what the Bible calls “the flesh” or “the sinful nature” (Romans 8:5, Galatians 6:8). As the verse says, “the old has gone, the new has come!”

 

Over the centuries, the Japanese have practiced an art for repairing pottery called kintsugi, mending broken parts with a lacquer mixed with powdered gold, silver or platinum. In the process, the broken objects become even more valuable. That’s a pleasant picture, but what Jesus has done for us is even better: He makes us totally new creations, freed from the power of sin and empowered by His Spirit to become the people God has always intended for us to be.

As 1 Peter 2:24 tells us, “He Himself bore our sins in His body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By His wounds you are healed.” Restored to wholeness not by kintsugi, but by the King of kings. 

Fashioning Harmony Out of Diversity

Among my fondest memories from my high school days was participating in the marching, concert and dance bands. Even though I was far from the best musician in our bands, I played in the percussion section with gusto and pride. 

On football Saturdays (that’s when they played high school games in my day), many of the spectators came not to watch our football team – which was mediocre – but our marching band, which was undefeated. Among the bands in our region, we had no equal.

 

The snare, tenor and bass drums and cymbals in our section could make the loudest sounds, but every instrument in the band was essential. That included the tubas, trumpets, trombones, saxophones, French horns, clarinets, piccolos, and even the glockenspiels. I’m sure every musician was just as enthusiastic about his or her part as the drummers were. Some might have even thought they were most important. But when we stepped onto the field, we were a single unit determined to march and perform at our very best, just as we had during many hours of grueling practice.

 

And how did we know we were doing our best? We knew by looking to our band director, an earnest perfectionist named Jack Pirone. We loved the applause of the fans, just as we did from the audience when we gave our annual Christmas and spring concerts. But it was the approval of Mr. Pirone that meant the most to us – by far. 

 

This desire to please our band director, as well as entertain everyone in attendance at our performances, resulted in a powerful sense of unity that transcended our musical differences. The brass instruments couldn’t play the percussion parts; the sousaphones didn’t try to drown out the woodwinds. Because we were performing together with a common goal, we always managed to fashion ear-pleasing harmony despite our diversity. 

 

We find ourselves in a place called the United States of America, but today we seem anything but united. Rather than appreciating our differences and seeking to dialogue and understand each other, we’re like members of an orchestra who want to dominate the stage. News commentators try to outshout each other. Protesters exchange angry words. I think of the phrase from the old Buffalo Springfield song, “For What It’s Worth,” describing the scene: “…A thousand people in the street singing songs and a-carrying signs, mostly say hooray for our side.” 

 

This phenomenon isn’t new. A verse from the Bible, written many centuries ago, provides a similar description: “The assembly was in confusion: Some were shouting one thing, some another. Most of the people did not even know why they were there” (Acts 19:32). Everyone seemed to be in an uproar, but many of them weren’t even sure why. Just as it is today.

 

We find this even within the Church – pastors, religious leaders, congregations and denominations all at odds, convinced they’re right and everyone else is wrong. If the apostle Paul were to see what’s going on today, he’d probably tell us the same thing he told believers of his day: 

“My brothers, some…have informed me that there are quarrels among you…. One of you says, ‘I follow Paul’; another, ‘I follow Apollos’; another, ‘I follow Cephas’; still another, ‘I follow Christ.’ Is Christ divided? Was Paul crucified for you? Were you baptized into the name of Paul?...” (1 Corinthians 1:11-13).

 

According to many reports, God is working in wonderful ways across our land and around the world. But despite the millions of people who profess to be followers of Jesus, our impact on society appears to be proportionately small. One reason for this is our disharmony. We’re like a band or orchestra in which instruments are out of tune and musicians are trying to upstage one another.

 

Paul often wrote about the importance of achieving harmony within the body of Christ. To believers in ancient Rome he said, “May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus, so that with one heart and mouth you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Chris. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God” (Romans 15:5-7).

 

In my high school band, our foremost goal was to please our director. He served as our inspiration and motivation. The mission of advancing the Gospel of Christ is so much greater and more important than a band performance. Rather than focusing on our agendas and disputing over our differences, we need to be “fixing our eyes on Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith” (Hebrews 12:2).

 

If we can succeed in doing that, how much brighter the light of Christ we could cast upon our increasingly dark world; how much greater would be the savor of the Gospel for those around us embittered by circumstances and godless ideologies. As the apostle wrote to the church in Philippi, “make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose” (Philippians 2:2). If we can please our Conductor, the Lord Jesus, nothing else matters.

Confession Isn’t Just Good for the Soul – It’s Crucial

One evening years ago, my children and I were playing some games in our den when the phone rang. I answered it and on the other end of the line was a man sobbing and saying repeatedly, “I need a friend.”

 

It was a man I’ll call Frederick, whom I’d met with in a discipling relationship some years before. He wouldn’t explain over the phone why he was so distraught, but we agreed to meet the next day. As we met, Fred poured out his heart, confessing that for years he had concealed being what he termed a “sex addict.” I’ll spare the details.

 

During the time we’d been meeting once a week, I neither knew nor suspected any of this. However, I had recognized and commented about how his job, which regularly took him out of town for weeks at a time, could be problematic for the health of his marriage.

 

Fred’s wife, he confided, had discovered his wrongdoings. His marriage was in shambles, and he’d become alienated from his children. I was the first person he’d told about his sinful lifestyle. “Why didn’t you ever say anything about this?” I asked. Fred responded he’d been too ashamed, preferring to put on a front as if everything in his life was fine.

 

I knew I couldn’t solve his plight. I did encourage him to turn to God in repentance, seeking His forgiveness, grace and mercy. But as Fred talked, he showed relief in having his secrets finally brought into the open. Until then, the only ones that knew the truth were himself, Satan, and God. And the tempter bombarded him with thoughts about how vile he was, as well as how despised he’d be if anyone were to find out about his hidden life.

 

I didn’t condone or excuse Fred’s behavior but didn’t judge him either. That wasn’t my job; God alone is our righteous Judge. I did offer suggestions for how he might move forward, but it’s been a long time since then and I’ve lost touch with him. I hope God enabled him to get his life back on track.

 

Thinking back on that time, I’ve wondered whether things could have turned out differently if Fred had decided to confide his “addiction” to someone much sooner. As long as they’re concealed, hidden sins can hold us captive, unable to resist their impulses. Confessing them – with an attitude of genuine repentance – is crucial. It can release us from their insidious grasp.

 

But this raises a question: To whom do we confess? Some Christian traditions encourage the confession of sins to clergy. This may be useful, but it’s not necessary to wait until we can meet with a pastor or priest to confess whatever our sins might be. As we read in 1 Timothy 2:5, “For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.”

 

What this means is we don’t need a human “middleman” to intervene between us and God. There’s but one mediator, Jesus Christ, who as the next verse states, “gave Himself as a ransom for all men – the testimony given in its proper time.” As another verse assures us, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

 

When we sin, we can go directly to the Lord in repentance and receive His forgiveness, restoring us into a right relationship with Him. However, there are times when confiding in another human can be helpful, even essential. This was the case with Fred. I’m reminded of the frightened child who had called out to his mother. She urged him to take his fears to God in prayer, to which he responded, “I need someone with skin on.”

 

The Scriptures give us ‘permission’ to do this: “Therefore confess your sins to one another and pray for one another so that you may be healed. A prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective” (James 5:16).

 

We’re all sinners, daily in need of God’s forgiveness and cleansing. When Jesus died on the cross, He paid the price for our sins once and for all: Tetelestai – “paid in full.” However, even as forgiven believers, unconfessed sins can erect a barrier between us and the Lord, disrupting the perfect relationship with Him that He desires. This barrier is taken down through genuine confession and repentance.

 

Our purpose in confessing sins to one another isn’t to embarrass ourselves. Nor is it to seek absolution from one another. It’s to establish accountability with another trusted follower of Christ, one who not only can offer counsel but also will provide prayer support, calling on God to enable us through His power to overcome temptation and live in a way that pleases Him.

Moving sins from darkness and into the light through confession – even to one another – can enable us to experience the truth of Galatians 5:1, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” 

Waiting on God When He’s Waiting on Us

For most of us, waiting isn’t a quality in which we excel. We don’t like waiting, whether it’s at a traffic light, in the grocery store checkout line, at the doctor’s office, or anticipating an important email, phone call or letter. Not to mention waiting to be seated at a popular restaurant or holding on the phone for the next available customer service agent.

 

When children are young, they can’t wait until they get older. Teenagers grow impatient waiting for the time when they can drive, then declare independence from their parents. Even when our school days are over and we’re on our own, waiting remains one of our weaker attributes – waiting for the weekend, waiting for that promotion at work, or waiting to retire.

 

Like it or not, waiting also plays an important role in our spiritual life. There’s verse after verse about trusting in the Lord and waiting on Him to act is response to our prayers and needs. In Psalm 27, for instance, King David writes about His confidence in God even in the most dreadful situations. He closes with the declaration, “I am still confident of this: I will see the good news of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord” (Psalm 27:13-14).

 

One of my favorite Psalms addresses this topic not once but twice. Also written by David, he cites a number of proactive steps – “Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the Lord…. Commit our way to the Lord; trust in Him…” (Psalm 37:3-5). But then he hits the spiritual brake pedal, exhorting us to, “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him…. Wait for the Lord and keep His way…” (Psalm 37:7,34).

 

The Israelite king must have become accustomed to waiting on the Lord, because in Psalm 130:5-6 he wrote, “I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His Word I put my hope. My soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen wait for the morning, more than watchmen wait for the morning.” And the prophet Micah declared, “But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord, I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me” (Micah 7:7).

 

When we read such passages, our first reaction might be something like, ‘Yeah, but that’s easier said than done.’ Because if we’re honest, we know what we want – and we want it now. In His Word, however, the Lord essentially is telling us, “I don’t work that way.”

 

We could point to dozens of other passages, but recently I came to the realization that not only are there are times when it’s necessary to wait on God, but also times when He’s waiting on us. It says in Isaiah 30:18, “So the Lord must wait for you to come to Him so He can show you His love and compassion. For the Lord is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for His help” (New Living Translation).

 

Another translation of the same verse words this differently, but as powerfully: "Therefore the Lord longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; how blessed are all those who long for Him.”

 

What does this mean, God waiting on us? Elsewhere the apostle Peter noted, “…God waited patiently in the days of Noah, while the ark was being built…” (1 Peter 3:20). And the apostle Paul admonished his readers, “Or do you show contempt for the riches of His kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you towards repentance?” (Romans 2:4). 

 

At one time this might not have made sense for me – God patiently waiting on me. But now, considering my erratic, sometimes stumbling walk with the Lord over the years, I can recall numerous times when it seems obvious He was doing exactly that – waiting on me to turn to Him. 

 

It goes back to my childhood, teen and college years. I had attended church as a boy, learned lots of Bible stories and did believe in God – in an intellectual sense. But I kept Him at an arm’s length, with no intention of letting Him play an active role in my life. You might say I felt comfortable being my own god. In times of crisis I would send up a “flare prayer,” asking for God’s help, but when the ‘emergency’ had passed, I went back to doing things my way.

 

Thankfully, the Lord did wait on me, as the verse says, longing to show how gracious He is. Through a chain of circumstances too complicated to discuss here, He saw fit to move me from darkness to light, enabling me to become born again as a child of God. But it didn’t ended there. 

 

I recall times – more than I could number – when I was muddling through some major challenge, doing my best to figure out how to resolve it. It might have involved a job situation, financial problems, or a family issue. No matter what I tried, no matter how much I worried about it, answers seemed out of my reach. Then in desperation I’d pray something like, “Lord, I give up. I can’t do this!” And He’d respond, not audibly, but I’d get the sense He was telling me, “I’ve been waiting. I know you can’t do it. But I can. Just watch and see what I’m going to do.” And without fail He’d work things out better than I could have imagined.

This reality – that God does wait on us, demonstrating far more patience than we ever could – is crucial for us to understand. Whether the Lord’s calling us to enter into a saving relationship with Him, tolerating our resistance, or wanting to show He’s the best guide, provider, counselor and partner we could ever ask for, He’s waiting on us. He’s patient, that’s true. But why keep Him waiting any longer?