No way around it: We live in an angry
world. Wars being waged, vicious expressions of opposing ideologies. Terrorists
killing and maiming innocent people, seeking revenge or making violent statements
for their cause. Drivers reacting in “road rage” against other drivers.
Citizens protesting vehemently against all manner of issues.
I heard recently of a woman who
launched into a tirade at a local restaurant simply because her fast-food pasta
meal wasn’t prepared to her satisfaction. Everyone within a half-mile radius
knew of her displeasure. She made such an angry impression, people in the
establishment referred to her as “the spaghetti lady.”
A small group I attend just completed
a study on anger, its causes and affects. It’s a complex emotion, for sure. It
seems some people were born mad. Others walk around with the proverbial chip on
their shoulder, daring anyone to knock it off. Some people seem less prone to
anger, but none of us is immune.
In some cases anger is warranted,
especially in the face of injustice. But it’s the consequences of anger that we
recognize the most.
Unresolved anger, for example, can
spawn hatred and bitterness. Those emotions, sadly, can be to the spirit what
cancer is to the body: Destructive, debilitating, potentially fatal. It’s been
said hatred destroys the vessel that contains it. While hatred may be directed
toward other people or things, persons harboring hateful feelings seem themselves
most adversely affected.
Similarly, there’s no way to sweeten
the cup of bitterness. Its poison can destroy relationships between family and
friends, and ultimately it can disrupt one’s relationship with God.
Knowing bitterness often grows out of
refusal to forgive when wronged, Jesus addressed that issue. When His disciple
Peter asked, “Lord, how often shall my
brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”, Jesus
responded, “I do not say to you seven
times, but up to seventy times seven” (Matthew 18:21-22). If you’re doing
the math, I don’t think He meant it’s okay not to forgive the 491st
time.
After presenting His model prayer, in
which He stated, “Forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors” (Matthew 6:12), Jesus proceeded to
explain, “For if you forgive men when
they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do
not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew
6:14-15).
He wasn’t referring to eternal
salvation, but fellowship – maintaining a healthy, unimpeded relationship with
God. Failure to extend forgiveness, requested or not, is a sin, Jesus was
saying. And sin of any kind disrupts daily fellowship with God, interferes with
our prayers and communication with Him, and takes away the joy of His presence
in our lives.
Forgiveness serves as an antidote to
the poison of unresolved anger. It’s the willingness to surrender our “right”
to get even, as well as our “right to be right.” It’s trusting God for meting out any
appropriate penalty or punishment for wrongs committed.
Is that easy? No. Having a cancerous
tumor removed isn’t easy either. But it’s better than letting it remain there
to continue doing damage and causing pain.
The old song told us, “What the world
needs now is love, sweet love.” Maybe what it really needs is a strong dose of
forgiveness.
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