Friends. Somehow they don’t seem to be what they used to be.
If you ask someone, “What is a friend?” you might be
surprised at the responses you get. This used to be an easy
question, but today the answer’s become muddled, thanks to technology and
social media.
In these days of Facebook friends, Twitter followers, LinkedIn
connections and text messaging, we’re in contact with more people than ever. In
an instant, with just a few pecks on a computer or smart phone keyboard, we can
have hundreds – even thousands – aware of our every thought, our every move. And
often they reply back to us, offering reactions, suggestions, even snide
comments. But are these really friends?
The popular and now-syndicated sit-com, “Friends,” seems outdated
by the current network of virtual friends. In “Friends,” guys and gals hung out
together, enjoying one another’s physical proximity. Together they experienced
many of life’s highs and lows, and were there to offer or receive comfort and
support whenever needed.
Today, physical presence is not essential to “friendship.” It’s common to see people standing or sitting with flesh-and-blood
friends, ignoring them as they tap out messages on their phones and tablets to
people nowhere in the vicinity, often ones they’ve never met face to face.
There's something about a true friendship that social media cannot begin to replicate. |
Thinking back over my boyhood and college years, friends
were important. We shared our joys and struggles, but more importantly we were
just there for each other, talking about whatever came to mind. These people became
an important part of us, at least for a season.
It’s not that I’m opposed to Facebook friends, following
other people on media like Twitter, or composing a text instead of making a
traditional phone call. Times change, and it’s good to be able to connect with
people in an ever-expanding array of communication alternatives.
But there’s something to be said for the old-fashioned kind
of friend, the person you were happy to see, who was glad to just spend time
together, talking, joking, bickering, whatever seemed to fit the moment.
The Bible has a lot to say about friendship, even though it
was written centuries before Facebook would become a factor in human discourse.
For instance, Proverbs 17:17 talks about the constancy of friendship: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother
is born for adversity.”
Proverbs 18:24 points out the value of being selective in
the choice of friends: “A man of many
companions comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a
brother.” And Proverbs 27:6 observes a true friend is not afraid to speak
the truth: “Wounds from a friend can be
trusted….” Other translations express it this way: “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.”
Jesus made perhaps the most profound statement about
friendship when he said, “Greater love has no one
than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends” (John 15:13). How
many of your Facebook friends would do that?
I appreciate the advantages that
social media offer us today, being able to communicate with people we could
contact in no other way. And it’s an interesting means for becoming acquainted
with people we’d never encounter otherwise. But I greatly appreciate my “live
and in person” friends, those individuals I can see across a table, look in the
eye, say what I want to say – and know they want to listen.
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